when people say they dont know why they feel this way/do these things, all they need to do is get help from another person to work things out. people feel like they dont know themselves at all but the opposite is true. you know yourself more than you will ever know anyone else on this earth in your lifetime. you are the one who lived through your own experiences. the answers to all of your thoughts or actions are within yourself. you have the memories and knowledge of yourself to find them, you just dont know how to utilize them and thats when a professional comes in handy because they can put you on the right track. but in reality that only goes so far. the only way to move on from a period of real (or perceived) personal failings, etc, is introspection. discovering the origins of your dependency issues or anger management problems etc is something only you can do in fullness. a professional can theorize based upon what you tell them but only you know the true answer. 

the power is inside of yourself! you are the key to your own recovery!! 

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sometimes i get really worried that people who were cruel to me are reading my blog all the time waiting for me to blog about feeling bad or being in trouble so they can feel triumphant about it. well the jokes on you. i am veyr beautiful, popular, successful, and thrilling. you will never win 

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"I once read the sentence I lay awake all night with a toothache, thinking about the toothache an about lying awake. That’s true to life. Part of every misery is, so to speak, the misery’s shadow or reflection: the fact that you don’t merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that you suffer. I not only live each endless day in grief, but live each day thinking about living each day in grief."

 C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed (via wordsnquotes)

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"I do not know which to prefer,
The beauty of inflections
Or the beauty of innuendos,
The blackbird whistling
Or just after."

Wallace Stevens  (via human-voices)

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"It’s ok you know,
to be carried now and then,
strength too needs a rest."

Daily Haiku on Love by Tyler Knott Gregson (via ironworthstriking)

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"I am   she is   we are  we have always been
Among you
In you: Lesbian"

— Judith Masur, Bryn Mawr College ‘68 in 1989

The above poem, published in a 1989 Alumnae Bulletin (the “Pluralism issue”), addresses the obfuscation of queer experience over a century of Bryn Mawr history. Greenfield Digital Center summer intern Brenna Levitin, class of 2016, offers a reading of the poem as woven into historical context.

Check it out on the blog!

Closeted/Out co-coordinator Monica is graduating and moving on to Bryn Mawr College, where her summer intern is — you guessed it! — researching LGBT life on campus.

What are the lesbian histories of a co-ed school like UChicago?

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"Growing up, I didn’t read novels by women. It’s not that I didn’t want to. It’s almost like I didn’t think that I needed to or, I guess, I didn’t know that I needed to. I was perfectly happy in a world contained by men. I adopted the posture of the brooding male as my own. I was Salinger, I was Kerouac, I was any male protagonist in a novel that one of my boyfriends recommended. I didn’t know that there was a specific female sadness so I was content with relating to a generalized one. And in a way, reading these novels was less of a way to relate and more of a way to learn how to be the type of girl that these male novelists liked. One of my first ambitions wasn’t to be a writer – it was to be a writer’s muse."

Gabby Bess, in Dazed (via electric-cereal)

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"We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better."

C. Joybell C. (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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"The superstition of government teaches people to believe thta there are times when they must perform acts that contradict one’s conscience"

Leo Tolstoy (via storiesoftherevolution)

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"Some words were like that. Whole lives attached to them. Ghosts and lives and ecstasy and sorrow."

Paullina Simons, The Bronze Horseman

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